I did it. I asked out Mr. Nice Guy.
Via Facebook. While I knew he was offline, at a meeting on the other side of the country on a business trip. This is worse than the text message date ask, and I complain about that all the time.
Go ahead, call me a chicken. T already did. It took me 3 days of talking about asking him out to come up with "So, are you going to this big Jewish event that everyone else is going to, because you are on that list of 400 people on Facebook that were invited, that you haven't responded to (because I stalked you and checked), and that's during NFL playoffs? Cuz if you happen to be going, maybe you'll see me there and then I can smile at you and you can think about maybe eating after since it ends at 8, and maybe since I'll also be there and hungry -- we can go together!"
So the email didn't EXACTLY say that. But it might as well have.
Maybe I'm no better than when I was a teenager. I remember one of my first attempts to get a guy to pay attention to me. I was out with a few friends, I think there were wine coolers involved. This was the late 80's, when it didn't seem so odd to stop in a park on a Saturday where other 16-somethings were drinking illegally-purchased booze. After my 2nd wine cooler, I stood up and slurred out loud "I wonder who's the best kisser here." I highly doubt the guy who kissed me was the best kisser, but he was the one who realized he might get to 1st or 2nd base with a drunk girl. (Luckily, in the late 80's, those stories end innocently enough!)
Of course then I was just looking for any guy to pay attention to me. These days I'm a little more particular.
So the email to Mr. Nice Guy actually said something along the lines of this: "Any chance you are going to the event on Sunday? If so, would you be interested in grabbing dinner afterwards?"
This way, I can assume his rejection is because he isn't going to the event.
But maybe, just maybe, I didn't misinterpret him lightly touching my leg the other day. Maybe, just maybe, he's kinda chicken, too.
Since your refer back to the 80's maybe you can go back even further and have a friend deliver a note asking "Do you like so-and-so: YES or NO". Then you have to ask do you "like, like" or just one "like" because that makes a huge difference.
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